Thursday, 28 August 2014

Goodbye Mum


Dear sewing bloggers,

When we blog we end up sharing layers of our lives, bit by bit, even if that is not our intention to start with. We get to know each other and get a sense of who we all are, through our shared interest - the creation of garments.

I was lucky enough to grow up in a sewing household. I heard the sewing machine in utero, was taught to hand sew doll clothes by my grandmother, then allowed free reign on the sewing machine by my mother. It was all fluid and easy, like breathing. My grandmother was a professional seamstress. She had a no nonsense mix of practicality and talent. Her clients would come to our house with material and describe what style they wanted. Grandmother would take measurements and sketch the pattern straight onto the material in chalk. Everything worked and everything fitted. I never saw her use a paper pattern in my life.

My mother, who did not consider herself talented because she did use paper patterns, would also whip up amazing things with a minimum of fuss.

I was the best dressed little girl on the block, but not in a showy way. I and my brothers miraculously had whatever we needed on a very modest budget and needless to say my mother was always stylishly dressed. It was a simpler time. We never did without but nothing was wasted. We valued what we had.

My mother passed away last night. She had been increasingly frail and ill for a long time and sixteen difficult days after surgery for a broken hip, her heart failed and and she passed away, like a wisp of smoke from a candle.

It was hard to believe that someone with such life force was really gone, but she is.

Goodbye Mum.


41 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry for your loss Val. This is such a touching post - full of such wonderful warm memories of both your Mum and your Grandmother.

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  2. Valerie, I'm so sorry. Enjoy the memories and the legacy your mother & grandmother left you. But most of all, look after yourself.

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  3. I'm so sorry to hear that, Valerie - your post has touched me and my thoughts are with you and your family. Long live the wonderful memories :)

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  4. Oh Valerie, I am sorry. I hope you and your family are able to find peace. *big hugs*

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  5. I'm so sorry for your loss Valerie, but what wonderful memories you'll always have

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  6. Valerie I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. What a great legacy you have in the sewing and memories. Take care.

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  7. I'm sorry for your loss Valerie, You have beautiful memories of her and your grandmother. Take care. Hugs, Sigrid

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  8. Oh Valerie, I am so sorry. My mother died unexpectedly this past spring. She too was a wonderful seamstress. I miss her much. Hugs and prayers to you.

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  9. My condolences, Valerie. I've been where you are; it's hard as we never want to give them up, but we know they will always live on within us. Your memories of your mother remind me some of my own. Mom also turned me loose on the sewing machine and I loved it! My Dad was afraid I would put a needle thru my fingers, but it never happened--not yet at least. My heart goes out to you.

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  10. I am very sorry for your loss.

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  11. Your love for your mother shines through your words. She sounds like a remarkable lady. My sincere condolences on your loss.

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  12. So sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like she was a wonderful mother to you and a very stylish lady. Sending a big hug your way.

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  13. Heartfelt condolences. What a wonderful legacy she left with you.

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  14. I am so sorry for your loss. What a moving post. Hugs

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  15. This is a beautiful tribute to your mother. I hope she did not suffer . Take care .

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  16. Valerie, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Losing your mother at any time in life is a tragic thing. There is no greater gift than love and it sounds as if she was loved and she loved.

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  17. I am so sorry for your loss, Valerie. My grandmother is in a rehab hospital right now after having a partial hip replacement two weeks ago. Thinking of you.

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  18. May all your fond memories of your mom wrap themselves around you and keep you warm. She is always with you and never leaves even on the other side. They guide us from beyond and know our hardships and triumphs. Just when you feel inspired or want to start a new wild project believe it is a loved one encouraging you. May extra blessings come your way to help you cope with this deep loss, Valerie.

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  19. My heart goes out to you in your loss, Valerie. May warm memories of your mother and the love of friends support you at this difficult time.

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  20. Valerie, I am so sorry for your loss, You have so many lovely memories of your Mum, celebrate and honour those with whatever expression it takes, laughter, tears, quietness because that's all part of who you are.

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  21. my condolences to you and your family just remember all she has taught you in sewing and in life that way she is still part of your life Valerie Amsterdam

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  22. Sending you my condolences Val.

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  23. What a sad loss - my condolences too - I suspect your mother will live on in your heart and soul forever.

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  24. Thinking of you at this sad time ... J

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  25. So sorry Valerie, how nice though that you have such lovely memories of her to treasure.

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  26. My condolences Valerie. You have written a beautiful tribute to your mother. Take care.

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  27. Beautiful words and lovely memories. Take care x

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  28. Dearest Val, I am so sorry. Thinking of you. Coco

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  29. I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to find comfort in your memories and in the company of loved ones.

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  30. Sorry for your loss, Valerie. Your mum's talents and beauty lives on through you.

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  31. So very sorry for your loss, Valerie. My thoughts are with you. Paola

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  32. A virtual hug from me Val. I hope that over time her memory will be a blessing to you.

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  33. Gentle hugs and smiles Val. I also spent time in utero with the hum of Mum's Featherweight going on, and 3 years after her passing, I still smile as I sew on my own Feathers now. May all the best of her life force live on through you in the coming years. xox

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  34. I'm writing this through my tears. I am so so sorry for your loss. Every time I hear of someone who loses their Mom, I relive my own loss. It will get easier, little by little, I promise. Lots of hugs and tissues. ♥

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  35. So sorry for your loss, Valerie. May your beautiful memories comfort you.

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  36. What a wonderful tribute you have written about your mother. Your treasured memories will be a great comfort to you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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  37. I'm sad to read this - I hope you and your family can find some peace and comfort in each other. Thank you so much for sharing the story about your family. It's lovely to know just a little bit about our blogging friends.

    PS you only need ask, and we are all here for you {hugs}

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  38. Oh dear Val, I am so very sad for you. Your mother was very special and gifted and your post a beautiful tribute. Hugs to you my friend and sorry our internet difficulties have made me so tardy. Take care xxx

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  39. Valerie,
    I am sending special prayers for you and your family this night. I pray that you feel God's loving arms around you as never before.. May He comfort you . I lost my daddy 10 yrs ago.. Such a hard time.
    What a beautiful post. Your grandma and your mom, both seemed very talented.. Such wonderful memories for you..
    Hugs my friend ..

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  40. My condolences for you, your family & friends of your mother. I'm so sorry to hear such sad news. Grief is different for each of us and if you ever want to talk about her please do.

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